I think our perception on dating is shortsighted. When we speak of dating, most of the time we think of single people. But what about lifelong dating? What is that and why is it important?
Guys: do you remember what it was like to court your lady? What you did to get her to want to be in a relationship with you?
I know I do. And, I remember always wanting her time. I wanted nighttime dates, midday dates, and morning dates. All the time I could get, I wanted it because I didn’t want her spending time with anyone else…I wanted to prove to her that I was a good investment of her time.
In order to do this, I was creative. We walked the art district, to look at the various art galleries. We went to the zoo. I took her dancing. On one occasion, I even cut up little party sandwiches, bought plastic champagne flutes, a nice bottle of champagne, and took her to the beach for a picnic. I wanted to wow her with the variety of my dating, in order to keep her interested and engaged…to keep her wanting to go out with me.
I did all of this while I was a single dad, raising an 8-year old boy.
I’m sure you have a similar story, right? We all pull out all the stops when we find the woman we want in our lives, right? Right?
And it works! We convince this stranger to open herself up to us and engage with us. We compel her to spend time with us and share her life with us. Ultimately we gain her commitment to us.
But it all started with a date…it all started with dating.
Even once – especially once – you have “gotten the girl,” dating is still critical to keeping her. But once we’ve won her heart, it’s so easy for us to focus on other things: career, children, hobbies, friends, etc. And when our attention is diverted, the relationship gets stagnant. We might remain together…we might still love each other, but you know something’s missing.
And the “missing something” is that key ingredient that helps you to maintain joy and peace in your relationship. But, with a commitment to lifelong dating you are able to continuously renew that joy and peace. A commitment to lifelong dating helps you to create the atmosphere that will revive the level of intimacy you are able to have in your relationship.
You should want to master the art of lifelong dating
When you become committed to lifelong dating it will help you to open the lines of communication between you and your lady. It will help you to have fun together, and give you some joy to remember when times get tough. Lifelong dating will help you to replenish your love and create more love, in order to strengthen your relationship.
What is your story? Tell me the stops you pulled out when you found the woman you wanted in your life! What was it like? How did it make you feel?